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| the thinking Man... |
I tend to be attracted to an older man. When I say older, I
mean significantly older, as in, fifteen to twenty years my senior. Its not
unheard of or even discouraged in, what is soon to be 2019. After all, we have
examples of more extreme relationships like the impersonal and money driven
marriage of Anna Nicole Smith and the like. As long as we aren’t speaking of an
age gap that can’t be bridged with Youtube, its safe to say these sorts of
relationships are within reach of any young man or woman with the maturity level
to “hold their own” as it were. For those who haven’t ventured that far
romantically, the most natural facture to a 28 year old woman, like myself, being in love with a
man old enough to be her father is the fact that the average individual looks
for the parent of the opposite sex in their mate. Men look for the care and attention of their mothers and women, that of their fathers, and their personal experience with each determines how their romantic pursuits manifest. An older man has lived longer,
experiencing more, has learned more, should have more and can be more of a
physical, financial and spiritual resource to yourSelf or any child(ren) you may have than to consistently battle with a younger “man” who is still on his
mother’s teet.
Now, before anyone’s mother gets her panties all in a bunch.
I am not referring to a man having an intimate relationship with his mother.
She carried him, bore him, fed him and raised him. I’m referring to a younger "man"'s need
for parenting, for rearing, child
rearing. It’s a commonly known and accepted social tenet that boys mature
slower than girls do. As a woman who makes an intentional effort to have a
variety in the classes of men she dates, character, occupation and age, I know
that you can’t expect a man to be a
Man until he hits at least 40, no if, ands or buts about it. Even then, you have
to take into consideration how well he plays the cards he’s dealt himSelf,
otherwise he’s no use to you as a mature, yet still, younger woman. But the
true identity of the dealer is a story for another time.
Though my personal, experiential and intuitive experience
has led me to the conclusion that a significantly older man is in fact what a
woman like myself needs, gnosis could not prepare me for the inevitable
struggle of the culture shock. As a preface, this explanation of said struggle
isn’t to discourage or deter but to shed light on a familial issue that is
prevalent but rarely discussed. When you are dealing with a Man who is approaching,
met or passed The Hill, you are faced with the reality that the women he was
raised by or with require much more than what does the Millennial woman. To be
frank without the intention to be harsh, women of his age bracket were proud to
just have a man by her side or at least in her home. Her gratitude, in turn,
warranted that she endure what is seen today as negligence. When he opens
himSelf up to having a legitimate relationship, not just a hot fling with a
pretty young thing, he finds that not more
is required but rather the polar opposite of which he has grown accustomed.
Millennial Women are not only capable of but actually look forward to thinking
for herSelf and wisely, providing for herself and well and is free enough to
get herself off with a toy or two on the regular basis. So Men of a particular
age are now faced with the question of what
can you provide for Me other than an order, a dollar and a decent
stroke?
The answer is you have
to think about it and that’s okay because you are old enough to do so and
come to the appropriate conclusion without asking your mother.
As so above, so below,
The Huntress
